Research shows that 55% of who you are in rooted in heredity and genetics and 45% is how you take what you got and bring it out into the world (personalityinsights.com). It is the age old question of nature versus nurture. It is an almost even balance that creates us as humans.

So when I say I came out fun-loving, spacey, funny, whimsical, spastic and a little off kilter, I thank my 55%. I also thank my 45% because I was born into a family that supported these pieces and showed me how to use them to my advantage. I dont have ducks. I dont have a row. I have squirrels and they are everywhere.

Almost my whole lifehas been spent jumping out of the box where funny, spacey and off-kilter isntloved. I have tried to sober up my squirrels so I could be more duck like. Ifelt society liked ducks more because they gracefully stood in rows and hadtheir act together. I looked disorganized, unplanned, a hot mess!

I, now, embrace thisever-glittering piece of me. Check outthese 3 ways to build your own box for the squirrels in your head:

Stanford did a study that humor accounts for a 700% increase in learning among students. So, I may be spacey, but I am smart. Knowing that human behavior is a pattern, I know that my temperament lends itself to being really good with people and relationships. And since 85% of a humans success in life is due to their strong people skills, I have an amazing advantage. Celebrate the strengths. The people skill I am best at is humor. It sets the stage for my interactions, how my day runs, the relationships I make and turn away, and how I look at different situations. What is your best social skill? How can you use it to inform your 85%?

My whole life people have been trying to settle me down, chill me out, meditate me to calmness. It hasnt worked yet! With squirrels in my head, I have found that the typical ways to calm are not for me. I calm by buying junk at yard sales and thrift stores, having lunch with friends, or eating a bagel from my favorite bagel shop. I cant meditate. Well, I guess I could, but I dont want to.

I figured out just the other day that when I participate in guided meditation I use the humor and sass in my head to joke with the guiding voice. Totally the opposite of what is supposed to happen. Find your calm and be confident that yours may not look like someone elses. Be honest with yourself because sometimes the quirks find the calm for you!

I am fast! I am fast at running, thinking, talking, getting mad, eating and even sleeping. My squirrels need it all fast. But often I have to slow down with self-talk. I have to slow my impulses long enough to capture the outcomes of my decisions. My fast pace sometimes ends in sadness and hurt feelings so self-talk is my solution. I remember those hard feelings and make sure they dont happen again and again. Introduce your impulses to your emotions and create self-talk so they can get along.

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